ಅನುಸ್ಮರಣೆ : Peace Is In Rest !

On this rotating earth, one thing in every one’s life is very steady! And that is, there will be 2 persons who are more lovable/Important than the parents! And that’s the reason why they called as Grand-Parents! They teach, they love, they care and when u look back, they will occupy large space in your beautiful moments! 

 When I was thinking what best I can give to the beautiful lady of my life, then I thought to write up an article in remembrance of her so that I can read it whenever I miss her, to make myself realize that she is around me watching and never far away!

 And this is the best I can give to her!! I admit it.

It has #Awesomeness, #Bravery, #Care, #Dedication, #Energy, #Fun, #Greatness, #Happiness, #Information, #Journey, #Kindness, #Love, #Memories, #Nourishment, #Occasions, #Purity, #Quietness, #Remembrance, #Silence, #Toughness, #Universe, #Vital, #Win, #Youngness and #Zeal.  

 Yes! I am talking about a woman, who had shown me all the above 'A-Z' feelings in her life through.

 #Journey:-

 A small village in 'TamilNadu' was under the district of Coimbatore (Now changed), within a distance of 19kms from the holy place - 'PALANI (Subramanya swamy Temple)' and it is called as 'SAMRAYPET'.

 A sweet family, with a beautiful daughter of age 9, was named as Hamsa-Veni, growing with her 2 MARRIED Elder Sisters and 4 younger sisters along with a very small, cute, smiling brother, who was not able to identify his sisters all alone unless someone points out with their name!

 As it falls under the different-language-region of India, a girl of age 9 was schooling in local language and was able to write up to a level of Tamil script and can read by anybody those who know Tamil!

 A few business men from the region of North-Karnataka (Gulbarga) were used to go for trading to the region of Coimbatore as there exists train connectivity in proper and good established market and business between the 2 different regions, 2 different cultures and 2 different languages.

 As family was small and rich-in carrying big burden of 6 daughters, decided to go against

'RAJA RAM Mohan Roy!'

Those were the olden/golden days and child marriage was in action for some extent I believe and which I personally support more and more ;) ;)]

A business man named ‘Manikappa’ married to ‘Hamsaveni’ at her age of 9 and brought her to his home (North - Karnataka, Sedam-Gulbarga dist.) and changed the name to ‘Anu’, this is what I got to hear from her!

She was spending her time with his family and living her childhood days, though her husband was to be in business trips. Train lane was passing a side by to the home and railway station was just a walk from home. She was looking at the trains whenever it passes by to enter railway station, thinking ‘one day her father will come to meet her!’ This kept her waiting.

Sometimes tears dropped down to the cheeks in waiting, sometimes she used to feel she has lost in the world of unknown, later she used to be happy by seeing her husband and his family thinking about her new world.

Yes it is painful for any woman to adjust the (un)known family in the beginning. One day time takes her to the place where she becomes the complete family for connecting past to the future!  Such a wonderful feel for a woman it is!

As the time goes on, Things got settled quit well. She turned to be an older now! They moved to the place called “Rajeshwar”, A small village in the district of BIDAR in Karnataka state under south region of the proud India!

On March 04^th of 1954, @ the age of 23, Anu blessed with a baby boy and a big thing in her life has turned bright smile on her lips and happiness in her face :)  

Now baby has become her complete world! She started spending her time in nourishment of baby and started dreaming her heavenly future in him.

Indeed a true dream of all women! A mother always dreams of her kid to grow rich and fulfill all her dreams which husband couldn’t do it!

To be frank in India, Every woman gets her identity from her kids rather from her husband!

[Ex: Rahul Gandhi’s Mother ;)]

Same as past, like childhood, her married life was full of compromises and not so easy.

One or the other un-expected things always on her way in her life.

At the age of 25, on the cloudy evening, while sun was almost to set, it was turned to be a black day for her! Though it was just a day for others.

When her son was just 2 years old, her husband went to a sleep forever by jaundice attack.  

A big storm in her life, what can a woman with 2 year old kid, far from her own family, does?

No way ahead! It was a big shock; big killer-tide just washed away the entire life in one eye blink!

Everything was stopped for her! Almost!

At that time, if she would have quit her life with a baby what would have happened?

If she would have gone back to her home where she was grown up, what would have happened?

If the baby was left alone in this world, what would have happened?

If it would have happened to be so, this story would have not come true here in my blog! 

A Brave woman,

      Started living her life for the future of Kid,

             For the growth of the family,

                  For the meaning of life,

                        For a beauty of life,

                              For a reason to the life!

She was living in the society of rich families. Neighbors were rich land-lords, having own houses and growing kids to take care! She gave all her gold ornaments which she had, to keep it with her husband’s distant relative with a promise to give it back for her son’s wedding which never returned to her!

With the God’s mercy on her, she got some room to stay in-between those families, she started taking care of those rich-kids, she started cooking for them, she started washing their cloths,

She started taking care of her world (Son).

And meanwhile she started her new life and that’s the new beginning of her life!!

After few years,

Her son got into a college and he used to take coaching classes for the school kids to arrange his school fees and send some money to her.

When he was 18, he got selected as an army officer by his physical and mental abilities. But Anu was told by neighbors that he would never return to home if he becomes an army officer which made her to cry and not to send her son for a Job, hence he rejected that offer!

By that time, all the rich families were migrated to nearby city; they decided and opened a general store (Small Groceries shop) in the year 1975 in Rajeshwar. The shop is situated where 80% of Muslims and 20% of Hindu’s are residing. There are 2 Hindu temples and 1 mosque in front of the shop, where everyday evening without a miss she used to light a lamp for all 3 holy places irrespective of religions! Even now it is.

The above all was a painful-past and here starts the new beginning of the Old Family ‘Ainapure’.

Then enters another beautiful lady into the World ‘Ainapure’, with same name ‘Anu’ as her ‘daughter-in-law’,

With Ups and Downs, with Grace and race, with Poverty and Purity, family was praying for baby boy after 3 daughters and my granny was like MUST in this case!

It was Thursday, Feb 2^nd, early morning before Sun-rise, I came to this world! That’s how I connected to this Family and this world, and so that they have become my world!

For my mom I was an another child like her 3 daughters ( My 3 elder sisters like Lakshmi, Parvati and Sarasvati :D without them I wouldn’t have been here today! ) But for my granny I was like a hero for my family, more than my mom she was happy for me.

All my childhood spent in loving/fighting with my sisters, helping dad in business and granny in shop, helping mom for anything required and helping myself to learn from them!

Whenever I used to bring something for shop, I never did return the remaining money to my granny and she was never asking either! Thus it made me to open a savings bank account at the age of 12 without letting my family members to know except my first sister. Of course she was one of the financiers too.

That’s how a trader, financier and an investor raised in me!

Whatever my granny was getting to eat something special for us, 50% share would reach me always and remaining 50% would be shared between my 3 sisters. I used to fight with my sisters to share 50% of theirs to divide by 4! But unfortunately they had majority of 3 and they were grabbing my 50% share to have myself left with only 25% without my notice. And I was thinking I had more shares in sweets or whatever it was! ;) And they were laughing at me..

There was an old lady from my neighbor village selling khowa (sweet) in my native and she had grandchildren too. After her day gets over before going to her village she used to visit our shop and they both were exchanging khowa and snacks. Khowa for me and snacks for her grandchild. Every day while coming from school I used to visit my granny where she was waiting for me with khowa which I alone used to finish without giving it to my sisters. This continued for 5 years until I changed my school and joined another one.

 We never worried about what profit we were getting from shop. Coz, my granny always believed donating rather than selling! :D .  If any kid visit shop, she was giving chocolates for free, if any farmer was visiting shop, she was giving Bidi/cigarate/tobacco for credit/free. And those farmers always used to bring something while returning home from field like fruits, grains, or something that they grow at filed and give to my granny. She was telling always that ‘God is watching me, he gives me something in return which might not be directly to me, might be from my grandchildren’. Might be the reason, I still wonder ‘Why I get good people always around?’.

Though we all grandchildren were living away from home for our studies/Job, whenever we visited home, after dumping luggage at home, we used to run to shop to meet our granny and never returned empty, always returned with biscuits, bread and something more.

I still remember an incident, she was hospitalized 5 years ago due to sickness and when doctor was not guaranteeing her safe return to home, my dad whispered in her ears that, “Mayya, got enagaged and marriage will be after elder sister’s marriage”.

Couldn’t believe, no medicine in this world worked for her sickness and the above line made wonders! She got up from the bed like nothing has happened to her and returned home as a normal person didn’t even realizing that she was there in hospital from 2 days. Doctor was astonished by her progress in health and shocked!

From the day next, she started spreading news to whoever visited her shop that “My grandson got engaged to the neighbor town’s (Humnabad) girl” And this story was untold to me, in fact from all of us. When I went to native from Bangalore on weekend, while walking from my native bus stop to home everyone were asking me, ‘When are u throwing marriage party?’. I wonder, how come all people can ask me treat and what for it is?

I went to my mom and asked she started laughing hard at me and told to go and speak granny.

I went to her, she gave me 100rs and told to visit my fiancé’s home with fruits and sweet.

I started laughing, laughing and laughing.. Then I asked what happened. She was strongly believing that I got engaged and waiting for my sister’s marriage settlements.

My dad explained me all the story then I continued the story. Whenever I visit home, I used to inform my granny that I am going to fiancé’s home, so she was keeping 100rs in my pocket.

It continued for 5 years and she still had the same belief when she was lying down on bed at hospital after her fracture!

Then I realized, more than medicine u need beliefs to live!! And trust me it works!

I know it was a sweet lie, but it’s a Life saving/living spirit for one who loved more and more to me.

She had only 1 dream; she wanted to see my marriage before my immediate elder sister’s marriage.

Of course I may not agree to get married before my sister’s. It’s a sense of responsibility which I should bear and never escape from it!

On June-14^th 2016, after returning from shop she fell down at the entrance of my home and which made her hip joint fracture. After she was bed ridden, my immediate elder sister got engaged and got married. Her condition was critical but she withstood the pain and made all the way for smooth marriage!

On 8^th Jan 2017, on the day of Vaikuntha Ekadashi, on an auspicious day, at 4:30pm, my granny went for long sleep which was biggest loss for all of us in my family. It was just a 15 days after my sister’s marriage. Even there she proved she won’t disturb anybody in any means!

Yes, it’s a biggest loss for my Family especially for me on whom she had lot of expectations!!I am sorry for not meeting few of them though, but on that day I decided something!

There are few things which I want to confess today!

• She always wanted to go in our own car which we don’t have yet! Though I could afford it I never thought its priority in my life right now! But when I drove her first time in dad friend’s car, she was having joint fracture and I was driving to scanning center. This was a most painful moment for me!

• She wanted to see my marriage/partner whatever, I couldn’t fulfill.

•  I wanted to take her in airplane to somewhere just to make her happy. Because to make her realize that “Days are changed now!”. And God addressed her prayers and her generous service in her lifetime. When I felt I am ok to go for airplane trip, she was not healthy and when she was healthy I was not wealthy! So I couldn’t make it!

So, if you have something to do for your dear ones, don’t wait for long. Fulfill it before time takes you far away from the things to make it never be possible, anytime!

After my granny left, I decided few things in my life :-

• Left drinking tea for a year in her remembrance which she was loving most! Its ritual in our family that to give up one thing what they love most till their first death anniversary. 

•  Whatever I start new thing in my life, it will start with her name! So that her blessings will always be with me!

•  Whenever I travel in airplane, I carry her frame captured her smiling face, so that the thing which I couldn’t fulfill when she was alive will at least reduce my sadness!

Dear Granny, though you left us, I still feel you are somewhere around us caring/praying always for our goodness which you have done the days u lived!

I have seen good things, sometimes miracles too! but I am still exploring one thing that,

“Why I always meet a good people around me?”. 

The only answer I have with me is coz of someone’s love and prayers for me.

Of course my granny and my parents are the reasons for it! I admit it.

Today, if I feel I am successful, it’s just because of my parents and my family then my friends.

If I have failed in something, somewhere, then it’s purely coz of my mistake!

With your inspiring story, I started feeling more respect towards women. Without her nothing is live/lovely in this world!

After 50 years in future, if any of my grandchildren wants to know about the seed of the family, I can proudly share this link to them!!

May be for others you were just a woman on earth, but for me and my family u were the beginning and everything!